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In Memory of Pamela Farr

Memorial Service

3:00 pm
Thursday April 21, 2022
O'Connell Family Funeral Home
520 11th Street South
Hudson WI, 54016

Gathering of Family and Friends

4:00 pm - 7:00 pm
Thursday April 21, 2022
O'Connell Family Funeral Home
520 11th Street South
Hudson WI, 54016

Pamela Kay Farr, age 53 of Hudson, WI, passed away surrounded by family on April 12, 2022 at her home after several battles with breast cancer. Pam was born on December 1, 1968 in Long Prairie, MN, the youngest of ten children born to Robert “Bob” and Arlene (Kitzman) Bauer. She grew up in Long Prairie and graduated from Long Prairie High School with the class of 1987. Pam moved to the Twin Cities and attended tech school where she earned a certificate in Data Processing. Pam would eventually move to Hudson, and was blessed with two sons, Taylor and Quin. She was an irreplaceable and amazing mom to her boys, and she displayed to them her loving compassion and desires to help others. Pam met the love of her life Mike Plain, and they have been inseparable ever since. For many years, Pam worked as a web designer for Ameriprise Financial, and recently she took a job working with the Star Tribune Newspaper.


Pam loved animals and had huge spot in her heart for her dog Gracie, and all the other pets she had throughout her lifetime. She was fond of scrapbooking, completing puzzles, hanging out with friends, and riding on the back seat of Mike’s Harley Davidson motorcycle. She truly loved spending time with her family, and was affectionately called “Pam-cakes” by Mike’s nieces and nephews.


In 2012, Pam was diagnosed with Stage 3 Breast Cancer. She endured her treatments and persevered as the cancer went into remission. Recently, the cancer returned as Stage 4 and had metastasized to other parts of her body.


Pam will remain in the hearts of her sons, Taylor and Quin Farr; her siblings, Allen (Nancy) Bauer, Lynn (James) Bundy, Barry (LaRae) Bauer, Cleo (Paul) Johnson, Colleen (Norman) Kleinschmidt, Colette (Kevin) Delsing, Cheryl (Tom) Petron, Richard “Rick” Bauer, and Ronald (Sonja) Bauer; her longtime significant other, Mike Plain; Mike’s children, Brittany and Brandon Plain; Mike’s father, Don Barrett; Mike’s siblings, Ken (Tina) Plain, Troy Barrett, Kim (Kevin) Colvard; father to her sons, Eric Farr; many nieces and nephews; other relatives and friends. She is preceded in death by her parents, Bob and Arlene Bauer; and grandparents, Peter and Loretta Bauer, and Charles and Edith Kitzman.


A memorial service to celebrate Pam’s life will be held at 3:00 p.m. on Thursday, April 21, 2022, followed by a gathering of family and friends from 4:00-7:00 p.m., all at the O’Connell Family Funeral Home, 520 S. 11th St., Hudson, WI. In lieu of flowers, memorials are preferred.

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    • Pam, I was so surprised to read this, we had so much fun bowling together great conversations and soooo much fun, I was surprised to see you were in Hudson sad we never reconnected after you quit bowling, we had a great team and lots of fun. You are now soaring with the Eagles, may you RIP, You passed away on my birthday, so I will always remember you and hold you near and dear my friend!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • Pam was such a wonderful, caring, and delightfully funny woman. We had some fun times together to be sure and she made family gatherings that much more special with her warmth and her laughter. My sincere sympathies go out to Mike, Taylor, Quin, and all of her brothers, sisters, and extended family.

    • Pam was smart, friendly, gregarious, caring and genuinely funny. I know all our former colleagues at Cordillera will miss her, as I do. Pam, you will be remembered!

    • I can no longer physically see you or touch you here on earth, which will be so hard for awhile. You have been so on my mind since your passing away on April 12, 2022. So many memories of you going through my head. I have known you all of your 53 years here on earth and what wonderful memories I have of those years. We have grown up together, played together and even cried together. I am really going to miss you a bunch, but I know when it’s my time to leave this earth I will see you again. RIP dearest sister. Your loving Sister Colleen. ❤️

    • Oh my lovely sister; you will be missed terribly. I’ve had 53 years of knowing you, memories I will cherish.
      Your heart was so large , helping others first before you helped yourself.
      When your health turned for the worse, it was so hard to see you in such a weak state, but you were a STRONG WARRIOR never gave up!!
      I will feel your presence near me. A Sisters bond can never be broken; not even by death.
      Love you always ❤️❤️

    • Pam was a great person. I would always run into her at the bars. We would always talk. It’s too bad she left us.

    • My heart shattered into a million pieces the day you took your last breath. I’m not sure how to live without you!!
      I was in middle school when you were born and I remember going up the the hospital to see you for the first time. What a beautiful baby… blond and blue eyed. I wanted mom and dad to name you Stacy, but I guess they had the final say on that; probably a good thing. Because of the age difference, we didn’t have much in common except we were sisters/siblings and me living and working out of town made the personal connections harder. But, that changed when you moved down to the cities and we were roommates for a couple years. We hosted our nieces for the weekend at the apartment a few times; which gave us a true taste of what it was like to “parent”. We baked, we laughed, we bonded. Dad always thought it was the best thing that the two of us were living together; mother hen watching over her chick (too funny). We were in each others weddings as we wouldn’t of wanted it any other way. As our lives moved in different directions, and our children were of similar age, we tried to hold that bond together as best we could, balancing it all off with work, kids, activities, etc. Our special holiday, ever since Taylor and Dan were born, was Easter; having brunch at the Johnson house; which makes this year extremely difficult. I cried with you when your cancer diagnosis was shared; I know exactly where I was when you told me. I prayed for healing, but some things just seem to be out of our hands. I walked 60 miles in three days in honor of all the suffering you were going through; it was one the hardest things I’d ever done, but I knew your journey was even harder. Our girl’s weekends were the best and most memorable as we shared as sisters; not sure how mom put up with us all. Your heart was bigger than life itself and you would have done anything for anyone; I would have done anything for you as well. I love you and will miss you now and forever.

    • Pam, you were like a mother to me. You were my best friend, my go-to, you were my person. Life without you is going to be different. You made everyone feel so loved. So important, so special. You had a heart of gold. Your kind, compassionate, loving, nature was in your blood. A little stubborn from time to time, but that’s what I loved most about you. You always spoke your truth. You were 100% real all of the time. You spoke your mind. You didn’t care what anyone thought, you were just… you. Always laughing, always goofing around, always having fun, always taking care of everyone else before yourself. You are irreplaceable. You are one of a kind my sweet Pam cakes! You touched so many people. Kids and animals were your favorite, Declan, Lachlan, Bre, Gunnar, Gracie (just to name a few) were your biggest fans. Each and every person in your life had a special relationship with you, Grandpa was your sweet lips. Your boys Taylor and Quin meant the world to you. My Dad loved you to pieces. We will never ever forget what a blessing it was to have met you and had you in our lives for so many great years. Always in our hearts but never forgotten ❤️❤️❤️❤️