Don’t make these funeral pre-planning mistakes

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With O’Connell Family Funeral Homes, pre-planning your funeral is simple, easy, and personal. The process, which may seem slightly morbid, can actually be a great way to grow together as a family and put together a beautiful celebration.



However, as you approach the pre-planning process, there are a few things you may want to avoid. Watch out for some of these common mistakes:


1. Be cautious about under-spending. It’s true that pre-planning is a great way to save your family from making emotional decisions creating undue financial stress while in the midst of their grief. However, it’s also important to remember that, while some services are more expensive than others, it’s solely based on the value they provide. It is difficult to put a price tag on our children and grandchildren learning how to heal from such an overwhelming loss.


2. Do not underestimate the loss in your family’s life when you are gone. Most of us don’t like a lot of attention. We hide our birthdays and tell everyone we don’t need any presents for Christmas. We are humble. This is not the time to be modest. In fact, it is time to be an advocate. For your family! Set them up to be able to celebrate your life, but more importantly, to learn how they are going to survive without you. The funeral is the first, and in our eyes, the most significant step in this process.


3. Rushing through things. Nobody wants to dwell on the thought of their own funeral. Unfortunately, rushing through the pre-planning process can lead to frustration, indecision, and anxiety. Don’t be afraid to ask questions to ensure you understand exactly what you are planning.


4. Not pre-planning at all. You may not be very invested in your funeral service. After all, you won’t be there! It may seem like an unnecessary expense. But these funeral services are a key part of the healing process, and planning out a day that everyone can enjoy is a worthwhile investment of your time. Don’t blindside your loved ones!

For more tips – or to begin the pre-planning process! – contact O’Connell Family Funeral Homes.

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