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In Memory of Pamela "Pam" Oman

Private FAMILY Celebration of Life

11:00 am - 11:45 am
Wednesday November 11, 2020
Bethel Lutheran Church - Downtown Campus
920 Third Street
Hudson Wisconsin, 54016

Pamela (Pam) A. Oman, age 74, of Hudson, WI, died Wednesday, November 4, at Abbott Northwestern hospital in Minneapolis due to complications from COVID-19.

Pam was born on October 15, 1946 in LaCrosse, WI to Aldon and Julia (Holmen) Lokken.  Pam was raised in Eau Claire and graduated from Memorial High School in 1964.  In 1968 she graduated from Luther College in Decorah, Iowa, and in 1972 earned her Master’s degree in English from Southern Illinois University in Carbondale, Illinois.

Pam met and fell in love with Bob at Luther College.  One month after their graduation from Luther, they were married and started their love affair which lasted 45 years.  She and Bob settled in Barron, WI, where he was a veterinarian and she took on the only career she ever wanted; being a mother.  After Bob’s death in 2013, Pam moved to Hudson where she was in close proximity to her children and grandchildren.

Pam is survived by three sons, Andrew (Sarah) of Bloomington, MN, Matthew (Janna) of Woodbury, MN, and John (Jenna) of Hudson, WI; six granddaughters, Elsa, Sofia, Svea, Soryn, Rose, and Ruby; brothers Vern (Dixie) Lokken of Shell Lake, WI, Paul (Carla) Lokken of Eau Claire, WI, Peter (Sue) of Eau Claire, WI; sister-in-law Carole DeGrote of Willmar, MN; nephews Paul (Melissa) Steen, James Steen, Josh (Melissa) Lokken, Grant Lokken, Carlton (Emmarie) Lokken; nieces Brenda DeGrote, Sarah (Jesse) Reese, Alyssa (Patrick) McCaughin, and Emily Eisberner; cousins Chuck (Dottie) Bye, John (Jane) Lokken, Roald (Cal) Lokken, Anne (Andrea) Lokken, Mary Lokken and Nancy (Steve) Grundahl, Steve Waller, Craig (Rebecca) Waller and many other beloved family and friends.

She was preceded in death by her husband Bob, her parents, Al and Julie, brothers-in-law Gary Oman and Sev Steen, and sister-in-law, Pat Steen.

Pam possessed an amazing energy and enthusiasm for life.  She loved music, singing in her church choir, playing the piano, and listening to music.  She was a voracious reader and writer.  Her book Chapter Three, a memoir in which she set out her thoughts about life and death, parenting, caregiving and her strong faith, was self-published in 2017.

Almost anyone living in Barron, and later Hudson, could recognize Pam as the “lady who walks everywhere”.  Walking was Pam’s release and a source of great joy.  Long before anyone thought of counting their steps in a day Pam was out doing several walks and going many miles per day.  Pam, along with Bob, completed numerous Grandma’s and Twin Cities Marathons.

Pam was a very spiritual person with a deep and abiding faith in God.  A lifelong Lutheran, she was a very active member of Bethel Lutheran church in Hudson, and prior to that, First Lutheran church in Barron.  She sang in the choir, attended services, and engaged in bible study groups.

As her mother aged and became needful of greater attention and care Pam was an integral caregiver to her.  Pam also used her gift of caregiving by doing volunteer work with St. Croix Hospice, an endeavor which she found deeply rewarding.

Pam’s greatest love and joy was her family.  She cherished her time with her sons and daughters-in-law.  When she was blessed with grandchildren, “Nene” (as the grandkids called her) would walk through walls to be with them.  Playing games with the kids, reading to them, playing music with them, and going for walks.  Pam treasured every moment with her grandchildren.  She also loved family gatherings with her brothers and sisters-in-law, nieces, nephews and cousins.  A big part of her life was the family cabin at Shell Lake.  Time spent there shaped her as she grew close with her brothers and cousins.  Shell Lake brought and kept her family together.

Her love of family showed in her passion for genealogy.  As the family historian, any question about the family could always be answered by turning to Pam.  She was very interested in and proud of her Norwegian heritage.  She located and contacted several Norwegian relatives and visited them on her trips to Norway; most recently in 2019.

Pam was a people person first and loved social interactions; most interactions with Pam would end with one of her famous hugs – Pam loved giving hugs!

It is impossible to encapsulate a person’s life in a few words and Pam was so much more than what has been included here.  Perhaps the best way to close this remembrance of Pam is to quote Pam herself from her book Chapter Three:

 “A famous theologian was asked what he would do if he thought the world were going to end the next day.  He responded, ‘I’d plant a tree.’ With that as inspiration, I will do my best to plant my trees, keep on walking, and doing unto others.  I can live, in the sure and certain knowledge that no matter what dark valley I walk through, God is with me as He is with everyone.  I know that ‘In our end is our beginning; in time, infinity; in our doubt there is believing; in our life, eternity.  In our death, a resurrection; at the last, a victory.’  (From “Hymn of Promise’ by Natalie Sleeth.)”

A PRIVATE celebration of Pam’s life will be held on Wednesday, November 11 at 11:00 AM; immediate family will gather in-person and others will be able to view a live-stream of the service.  The family requests that any memorials in her honor be directed to Bethel Lutheran Church, First Lutheran Church in Barron, Little Free Library or a charity of your choice. Funeral services have been entrusted to the O’Connell Family Funeral Home of Hudson.

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    • We were profoundly surprised and saddened to learn of Pam’s death. Both of us thought she was one of the most vivacious and friendly people we knew. Our association with Pam came from Bob and I both practicing veterinary medicine in Barron for many years. There are a lot of fond memories from those days and Pam had a special effect on anyone she came in contact with. Our thoughts and sympathy are with the Oman boys and their families.

      Phil and Mary Lou McCleary

    • My connection to Pam was the time we spent together as members of Bethel Lutheran’s church council. Pam impressed me with both her spirit and intelligence, as well as her sense of humor. While she was generally quiet, what she brought to the council was wisdom borne of her experience and love of God and of our church family. The obituary gave me a chance to add to my limited knowledge of who Pam was. Fellow council members were fond of kidding Pam about walking everywhere around Hudson. This pandemic has taken a terrible toll, and I’m very sorry that Pam’s loss to your family is among the devastation being experienced.

    • Dear Andy, Matt, and John…and your wives and children,
      My heart is heavy at the loss of Pam. I am still trying to process it. I had just talked to Pam the week before she died and had a good talk. So I knew she had COVID, but she said her symptoms were mild…and yes, she had been able to walk outside some! She said she only had two days left until she got out of quarantine. So, yes I was shocked. Pam .and I were friends at Luther from almost day one: her cousin, Chuck Bye, and my brother, John Engelien, were roommates, so we got acquainted that way. We were roommates our Sophomore and Junior years. We counseled together at Luther Park in Chetek, Wisc. We were able to see each other a year ago at our 50th reunion at Luther College..a blessing for sure!
      May God hold you in the palm of His hand and help you day by day on your sad journey. May the healing hand of the Divine Potter bring you peace. Dorothy Engelien Borge

    • Words cannot express the deep grief I have over Pam’s passing. I have only known Pam since she moved to Hudson but I feel as if she was part of my whole life. Pam was one of the dearest friends my Mom had. Her visits with Mom when she stopped by on her walks was a highlight in Mom’s life–and all of her children. Pam was one of the kindest most sincere person I’ve ever known. I am so glad that I was able to see her about a month ago and got one of her famous hugs. As God’s choir gained another angel, we here on earth will keep her always in our hearts and memories. God bless the extended “Oman” family and now soar high Pam with your new wings and give your feet a break. Thank you John and Jenna for bringing her into our lives 💔💔